4 Facts About You That Insecurity Doesn’t Want You To Know

4 Facts That Insecurity Doesn't Want You to Know

By: Amy Dalke

I don’t know about you, but some days I just wake up at the bottom of an Insecurity Pit.

And it’s on those days that I have to preach the gospel to myself, or I will otherwise spend the day as a pit-dweller, which pretty much means that I’ll spend the day measuring myself against others, and reminding myself of the 58 reasons that I’m ill-equipped and under-qualified.

Insecurity is a bold-faced lie that creeps into our life from all angles. 

We have insecurities about everything from our bra size, to dress size, to the size of our homes. 

We wear insecurity on our shoulders as we muddle through friendship issues, mother-in-law drama, and parenting fails; and insecurity is the filter through which we interpret every conversation.

Insecurity is a pit-dwelling trap, and nobody has time for that. 

But it’s not like we text Insecurity and invite her over for coffee and muffins, nor do we go looking for a pit to jump into. Which means something tricks us into that pit, and we need to figure out how to avoid it next time.

Here’s the deal: if the way you see yourself is rooted in insecurity, then your view is vastly different from God’s. And the key to avoiding the pit is to live based on how God sees you.

Since God’s thoughts about you outnumber the grains of sand, there’s no way I can pack all of that awesomeness into 600-ish words. But this is a start:

4 Facts About You That Insecurity Doesn’t Want You To Know

(1) You have been adopted as a CHILD OF GOD. (John 1:12; 1 John 3: 1-2). I know. How clever of me to tell you what your 2nd grade Sunday school teacher told you.  

I might as well say, “Hey, don’t be insecure. You’re God’s child. He’s got this.” #FistBump #PrayingForYou

But actually, when you sink your mind into the implications of what “being God’s child” really means, you will discover that true faith isn’t grown in a cotton candy patch. 

Throughout scripture, God’s people are the underdogs who have no hope of winning and every reason to fail. They are the Least Likely and Most Ordinary who dare to believe God is who He says He is.

Their lives aren’t defined by their trials or successes, but they have a deep sense of security in the middle of hard and painful and unfair. 

This is the life God invited you into as His child- the great adventure life of faith. The difference between facing Hard as a child of God, is that you know who holds your future and faithfully directs your life. (And that happens to be God, who runs the world.) 

(2) You are ACCEPTED in Christ (Romans 15:7, Colossians 2:9-10). We can list every reason why God shouldn’t accept us. But I forget that nothing I do surprises him…and I start thinking how disappointed He must be. 

But, hello, God knows more about us than we know about ourselves…flaws and all.

And He accepts us anyway. 

This means that even when life throw us for a loop, or when relationships fail us and disappoint us, we can still rejoice in Christ’s complete acceptance of us.

(3) You are CHOSEN to bear fruit (John 15:15). It took me a long time to grasp the awesomeness of this verse. Mostly because it’s hard to relate myself to parts of a tree. (Or really the whole gardening concept in general.) 

Nonetheless, knowing this will change your life: God purposed you to live in this time, in this place, in this generation. And He custom-made you with skills, strengths, and gifts so that He can uniquely impact others through YOU. 

Yes, YOU. (Even though ____, even if ____, and even still.) 

(4) You are a CITIZEN OF A HEAVENLY KINGDOM (Philippians 3:20). I know, I know. You aren’t dead yet, so what does your eternal address have to do with it? 

Actually, heaven has everything to do with this very moment. Jesus-people have been born into the Kingdom of Heaven where we enjoy the rights and privileges of our new homeland right here and now.

We are ambassadors of this heavenly kingdom, and God works in us and through us to bring heaven’s work to earth in every step we take. 


The enemy knows that when we know who we really are…we will be unstoppable.

Satan is well aware that God has defeated him. But if he can trick you into believing that you’re the loser, then he’s won a small battle. 

And to keep winning, all he has to do is keep you focused on who you aren’t.

If insecurity is masking your true identity in Christ, then ask God to show you where your thoughts have gotten tangled in a lie. He will lift you out of that pit, one truth at a time.

(Also please feel free to kick insecurity in the face with every new inch of victory you gain.)


Set Apart To Fulfill God’s Plan

The Truly You Purpose Project

The Truly You Purpose Project God Knows and Loves You Anyway

Truth Tip #3

God Set You Apart  

 To Fulfill His Plan For Your Life.

It’s week three of The Truly You Purpose Project. So far, we’ve learned you are of sacred worth, and God’s love is unconditional…he loves you…no matter what. While you may have already known these things intellectually, I hope you have now enveloped them in your heart and invested them into your soul as they are foundational to moving forward and living truly you.

This week, we step into Truth Tip #3 of our life purpose project and realize God set you apart to accomplish his specific plan for your life.

Truth Tip #3 

God Set You Apart To Fulfill His Plan For Your Life.

…before you were born I set you apart;

Jeremiah 1:5

I’m married. For the second time. Divorce was not part of my plan.  Frankly, it wasn’t God’s plan for my life either. In hindsight, perhaps neither was my first marriage.

Back then…1981…I didn’t think much about God having a plan for me. I was much too focused on myself for that. I definitely had a vision for my life, my marriage, and future family. Unfortunately, I don’t recall that I included God in the picture except for maybe church-going on Sundays. I claimed Christ as my Savior, attended bible studies, prayed and read scripture, but my faith wasn’t deep enough to know I could trust God in and with everything…even my life partner…even my dreams. I didn’t know how to be brave and listen to God’s voice, to view circumstances as signposts on the path to my first marriage.  I didn’t know God set me apart and had a specific plan for my life.  A plan to accomplish his purposes and bring me joy along the way.

I know now…and it has made all the difference.

Your Role In God’s Plan Is Significant

…God, who set me apart from birth and called me by his grace, was pleased to reveal his Son in me so that I might preach him among the Gentiles…

Galatians 1:15

When we set something or someone apart, we do so to keep it or her separate for the right purpose, place, and time. We separate good china from the everyday dishes for use on special occasions. When we bake, we set apart the dry ingredients from the wet until the right time. We separate our music on play lists based on our moods and preferences.  We set apart people for different jobs at our offices to bring optimum results. Setting apart has purpose.

In this scripture from Galatians, the apostle Paul reconfirmed the calling God had on his life…this ‘setting apart’ that occurred from birth. Paul testified that God lovingly and specifically selected, separated, and meant for him to complete a plan. Not Paul’s plan, God’s plan.

Paul’s plan was to persecute Jews…and he was good at it! But God knew all along the winding roads Paul would choose to take and he used them to strengthen and empower Paul’s testimony of Christ’s love to the Gentiles…eternally life~changing to those of us who are not Jewish!

Paul’s role in God’s plan is significant. So is yours.

Your role is significant

If you are anything like Paul ~ or me ~ in setting out to follow your own plans, you need to know that you have been set apart from birth to make a way for the completion of God’s great plan and glory. His plan includes your roles, personality, relationships, giftedness, location, experiences, faith, and even the ashes resulting from wrong choices.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purposes.

Romans 8:28

Through my first marriage, I was gifted an incredible son.  I gained a whole lot of wisdom, and my relationship with Christ grew deeply. God has used my past to create a desire in me to help other women draw close to him and know and accept his plan for their lives. In doing this, I live God’s plan for my life and bring glory to his name.

Step forward into God’s plan for your life.  Be truly you!

You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.

Proverbs 9:21

Purpose Prayer

God, forgive me for making my days all about me and my plans. Please open my eyes, ears, and heart to know and accept your will for my life. Thank you for somehow using my mistakes and misdirection for my good and greater impact for your kingdom, greatness, and glory. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Purpose Step

Write down the plan you have for your life. After praying and reading scripture, do you sense God has something different in mind for you? Are the differences small tweaks or huge leaps? Perhaps you’re right on target! In any case, praise God for his plan and ask that he reveal specifically how he wants to use you for his glory.

Listen to Your HeartSong Here

Set Apart/Worship Central

-Written by: Gail Armatys

Accept God Knows You ~ And Loves You Anyway

The Truly You Purpose Project

The Truly You Purpose Project God Knows and Loves You Anyway

Truth Tip #2

Accept God Knows You ~ And Loves You Anyway

What if you lived believing no matter what mistake you make, where you’ve been or what you’ve done ~ you are loved? You might say you already know all about God’s love. Of course.  The question is, do you accept it deep down enough to live like you believe it?  To live as you are meant to live?  To be truly you?

God knows you inside and out. He knows me, too.

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…

Jer. 1:5

God knows my anger. I’d never felt rage before, but this was it. I closed the door to a bedroom downstairs so no one ~ kids, neighbors, astronauts would hear me because I was ready to blow! I paced, ranted, and raved. I’d be stretching the truth to call this righteous anger. Prideful anger ~ more likely. God saw me. He knew why I was angry. Yet, he let me vent and continue to call me to his side…because he loves me anyway.

God knows my sin. I had a ‘habit’ I couldn’t shake…for years. More precisely, I wouldn’t let go of it. Finally, I looked in the mirror and couldn’t see me any more. Suddenly I realized…I was looking for consolation in my habit rather than God. He was not surprised by my epiphany. He knew all about me long ago. His love healed me…because he loves me anyway.

God knows my fear. I remember being so afraid of what might come I was paralyzed ~ unable to do the next thing or even know what it was. God saw my fear and confusion and used this time in my life to comfort and draw me near…not because I ran to him, but because in his love he reached out to me…because he loves me anyway.

God knows my pain. The hurt of my heart was excruciating and it doubled as I pled for another. There was nothing I could do. The situation was out of my hands. Where was God? Even in my doubt, God heard and answered my cry. He comforted and strengthened me…because he loves me anyway.

God knows all the not~so~pretty moments of mine. Yet, he loves me. This love has drawn me close and my acceptance of his no~holds~barred, love~me~anyway love has given me courage, peace, and the ability to be more forgiving of myself and others. Through it all, he has made a way for his purposes in my life to blossom so I may draw closer to him and who he made me to be. It’s the same for you.

Loved Each Day

God is faithful on The Truly You Purpose Project

Believing in God’s love is a continuous daily challenge, for sure. It requires intentional commitment to his loving Presence. We try to hide our mistakes, pain, and sin because we feel shame, hurt, distrust, and fear. Vulnerability and rejection loom large. But God is faithful as time and time again he calls us out from our darkest moments, thoughts, and experiences into the light. He knows that for us there is no greater source of humility, peace, freedom, strength, and purpose than to be fully known, and fully loved.

“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”

Timothy Keller

Accept God’s all knowing, love~you~anyway love…and be truly you.

Purpose Prayer

Thank you, Father, for knowing me and loving me anyway. I praise you that as I believe and accept your love, your purposes for my life begin to blossom. I am desperate to be all that it means to be truly me! In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Purpose Step

What fear can you lay in the lap of God’s love today?  Surrender it to him and find peace, encouragement, and courage to live out your purpose believing God knows you utterly and completely ~ and loves you anyway.

Listen to Your HeartSong!

You Love Me Anyway/Sidewalk Prophets

How to Fix Your Inner Control Freak

By: Amy Dalke

The one verse I need when I freak out that everything is out of my control...

I’ve found a verse that solves my ego-issues every single time.

In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” (Genesis 1:1).

You and I were notably absent in the creative birth of the universe, and we didn’t even appear on the scene for thousands of years following the earth’s first full rotation. We were not even our own idea, so do we really think we have “control” over our circumstances?

God formed us and shaped us as image-bearers of His glory (see Genesis 1:27), a glory which we cannot hold for our own. Yet I, for one, continually knock my head hard into a pride that tells me life is my own show. Which is why I was reminded today, to bring this ego train to a screeching halt.

Though our individual shapes are cut uniquely, we share this core purpose: we were made for God’s glory.

“…everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made.” Isaiah 43:7 ESV

You and I were created to display the glory of God, so that He would be made known and praised. It means that our lives did not begin with us in the first place; and every effort we make to hoard glory will take us farther from who we were meant to be.

Life is God’s show, and we are characters who have been graciously given a part. When that truth is etched into the thread of our souls, we will become more fully the image-bearers we were made to be. God delights in offering us a divine partnership chock full of opportunities to create with him…to bring light and salt and love with every foot fall we make on earthly soil. It just goes a bit awry when we confuse our role with his majority ownership.

It’s not like we wake up on a Monday morning, and deliberately make plans to be a glory-stealer. Yet when we greet the day without the Real Beginning in mind, all of life is turned into a stage of our own production. And when ours becomes the starring role, God gets limited air-time, leaving life completely off balance.

A rightly re-oriented perspective will change your life today:

It is the difference between a melt-down over out-of-control, mid-summer-crazy children, and abiding peace.

It is the difference between justifying your anger over that person’s offense, and offering mercy instead.

It’s the difference between a spiking blood pressure over unfinished tasks, and practicing the joy of the present.

It’s the difference between an ugly tone of voice, and undeserved grace.

It’s the difference between despair over a failed performance, and the humility of knowing it’s not even about your performance in the first place. You just got invited to play a part.

If you started this day with an upside-down, you-centered perspective, stop right now and flip your mind right-side up. Take a deep breath. Go back to the beginning. And acknowledge that The One who created you, who LOVES you, is the Master Controller of the Entire Universe. All of life today has the potential to unfold with his glory and your good. But you might miss all that if you’re focus is out of whack.


p.s. These words are basically a post-it note that I had to write for myself. Because seriously. I’m like the Most Likely to Forget It’s Not About Me.

Your Life: An Epic Telling of God’s Story

By Ms. O

Your Life: God's Story

I love movies…I really do. I know “love” is an overrated word but for me…and movies…it simply fits. I so enjoy losing myself for two hours…in a story that is not my own…that I don’t have to respond to…try to fix.

It is a standing joke with my youth that my Top Ten Favorite Movies involves more than ten movies. I try to explain to them that the list evolves…it changes. (Let’s be real…new movies come along that intrigue me…so some how, I have to fit them in.) Perhaps I need a Top Ten of My Now Time…instead of Top Ten All Time…favorites.

There are some movies that will remain in my Top Ten regardless because the story line is timeless.  I am known to watch a movie over and over…can say the words along with the actors on the screen. It is almost like I have a part in the picture.

I have watched “It’s a Wonderful Life” more times than I can remember but I will still tear up…every…single….time. It reminds me that each life has meaning…value…worth. What we do impacts others…that we can make a difference. It also tells me that money is not everything…being rich is more about who and not what you surround yourself with.

I could watch  “You’ve Got Mail” a hundred times…probably have…and it never gets old. I have faced criticism because of my affection for this film…but hey….I am not one to play judge. Yes, I know that the main characters are not stellar in the beginning…both being deceitful in revealing things about themselves….but the brutal truth of relationships….our desire to be loved….for who we are… touches my soul.

Movies that speak of redemption will always creep up into the top favorites. I am not one that likes sad movies but there are times that they are worth the box of Kleenex.  “Schindler’s List” is one of those movies.  In the depth of depravity…the midst of one of the most horrific times in history…there is a glimpse of God…of His desire for us to move…do something…to cast His light to in the shadows…to give….hope.

I don’t need to question why I love movies so much…that is a no brainer. It is life played out on the big screen. It reminds me of the beauty of love…the pursuit of dreams…the importance of keeping what matters most front and center.

“He is wooing you from the jaws of distress to a spacious place free from restriction,

to the comfort of your table laden with choice food.”  (Job 36:16)

When I read that scripture I feel the pull… the wooing of my soul…that speaks to all that He created in me. God knows the language of my soul…He reminds me that I am part of His story…and I find that truly intriguing…and humbling.

He reminds me:Before I formed you in the womb I knew you….”…let me never forget…..”For He chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love”….Because of Christ, I have worth beyond any that I could fathom in my humanness.

Read on…it just gets better….believe me….

“but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us..” to redeem us….me….oh my.  And my response to this epic telling of God’s story…His screenplay…my top choice of how I want to live?

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

It is time to grab my popcorn…(add some salt…cause I love salt)…and immerse myself in His Word…His Story…because He has written me into it.  Together we have run the gamut of emotions…that is for sure…and He woos me back again and again…and that never gets old. Matter of fact…I am thankful that He constantly calls out…and saves me a seat…front row center section…oh ya. What is even crazier is…I am not a spectator…I have a part…a bit part mind you…but a part all the same…that He created especially for me. Amen and amen.

Accomplishing Your Purpose May Require Much

By: Gail Armatys

The journey to accomplishing your purpose may require much of you…including giving thanks in difficult circumstances.

I am frustrated with a particular endeavor of mine. I have to chuckle, because it is no coincidence that my most recent newsletter was on the Christ-like character trait of perseverance. God has a sense of humor and is intentional about everything. So each time I write a newsletter, blog, or speech you can be sure He has a message in it for me as well. It’s not that I don’t read what I write or implement what God puts on my heart to share. It’s that I had forgotten a couple of steps along the way to accomplishing my purpose. This time, the message to me was found in First Thessalonians 5:16-18.

Be joyful always;

Pray continually;

Give thanks in all circumstances,

For this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

As I read, I heard clearly in my Spirit, “Why are you frustrated when you should be joyful? Come to me with a joyful heart. I know you’ve been praying…and I have been silent. Keep praying. I heard you give thanks for many things thus far today. But I did not hear thanks for the circumstances that frustrate you so. Come to me and give thanks for your situation. This experience will bring about much good…in my time.”

Next thing I know, I’m on my knees on the hard, stone patio, head bowed in prayer thanking God for all he has done and all He is doing. It was a prayer from deep in my heart. No fancy words, but a heart desperate to show gratitude for the work He was doing in me and through me to make known His name, His love, and His purposes for each of our lives.

journey to purpose requires much give thanks

After finishing my prayer, I felt refreshed. My attitude shifted. My focus was back where it should be – on God, not on my circumstances or myself. Sometimes, even when we do things for the right reasons, there are battles that must be fought as we dare to move forward. Even so, God is with us.

So today, my friend, I pray that you stop whatever you are doing, wherever you are, and shift your focus to Jesus and your weight to your knees. I pray you would bend low and speak from your heart every hurt and frustration that has blocked you from a joy-filled journey – that you choose joy in the Lord always. I pray that you find peace as you share with God and tell Him what you would like Him to do …according to His timeline. I pray that you would thank the Lord for all His wonders, and goodness; His faithfulness and mercy; for His love, and yes, for the situation and circumstances that you find yourself in – frustrating or not – because you know that through Christ it is all for your good and He is with you through all of it.

May your eyes and heart be focused on Christ, may your attitude be that of joy, may your prayers be as your very breath, and may you give thanks in each and every circumstance.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Purpose Steps

  1. Choose to speak in a joyful tone today sharing words of refreshment and encouragement. Notice how your day went before crawling into bed.
  2. Be intentional about praying throughout the day – let your breath be your reminder.
  3. Thank God for whatever circumstances you find yourself in this week…for they are meant to bring about much good for you.

Purpose Prayer

Father, I pray to walk in joy today, to live as though my every thought and action were a prayer lifted in your name, and to never forget to thank you for all you are teaching me, how you are leading me, and what you have planned for me. In Jesus’ holy name. Amen.

Listen to your HeartSong below.

Through All Of It/Colton Dixon

Live the song written on your heart.

Is it a pile of rocks, or a road paved with stone? (Perspective is everything.)

By: Vivian Wilson

I know there are at least a few of you out there like me, bless our hearts, who, from time to time feel the weight of our responsibilities and commitments.  Add to that pile of rocks the boulders of trials and troubling circumstances over which we have no control.  It feels like we are being crushed and squeezed into a box leaving no room to move and precious little air to breathe.

I have been in that box for a while now. The trouble is, I know that God does not want me to live in the confines of such a place. He didn’t put me there, I put myself there by choice. That is to say, I chose to believe the lies of the enemy rather than stand on the Truth of God’s Word. I may have some limited control over some of my responsibilities and commitments, but no control over the trials and troubling circumstances. I have the ability to control my thoughts, my words, and by actions.

I can choose what I think, what I say, and what I do. That’s it.

The truth is, God is COMMITTED to changing me. He is making me into the image of Jesus.

2 Corinthians 3:18  And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory are being transformed into his likeness with ever increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is Christ.

And I know He uses all the “stuff” of life to accomplish this (see Romans 8:28-29). So I can decide to change my perspective of the pile of rocks.

When seen through the eyes of the evil one these rocks produce brokenness and destruction. But when seen through the eyes of God they are tools to shape me producing wholeness and maturity. The rocks and boulders of this world cannot harm me. In fact they are instruments with which God makes me into the person he created me to be.

Trials and Troubles, Rocks and Boulders - all just stepping stones on our path of glory.

There are some practical ways found in Psalm 37 for maintaining a healthy perspective.

Psalm 37:3  Trust in the Lord and do good

          37:4  Delight yourself in the Lord

          37:5  Commit your way to the Lord (cast all my anxiety on him)

          37:7  Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him

I will also be intentional about thanking him for the rocks and boulders in my life because they have a purpose.  And that is to make me useful in His kingdom and in so doing He is glorified.  After all, it isn’t about me but it is about Him.

So, my dear sisters, be encouraged by God’s grace that enables us to out from under the rocks and boulders that have piled up on top of us.  But also a reminder for all of us, there will always be rocks and boulders.

Because we are enabled and empowered by the Holy Spirit, we need not be crushed by them. Rather we can choose to be grateful for them and embrace them as instruments in our loving Father’s hands, instruments to shape us into the person he created us to be.

James 1:1-4  Consider it pure joy, by brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish it’s work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

Thank you, Father, for the rocky places in life.  Help me to see them through your eyes as tools to make me more like you. In Jesus name…amen.

A work in progress,