Set Apart To Fulfill God’s Plan

The Truly You Purpose Project

The Truly You Purpose Project God Knows and Loves You Anyway

Truth Tip #3

God Set You Apart  

 To Fulfill His Plan For Your Life.

It’s week three of The Truly You Purpose Project. So far, we’ve learned you are of sacred worth, and God’s love is unconditional…he loves you…no matter what. While you may have already known these things intellectually, I hope you have now enveloped them in your heart and invested them into your soul as they are foundational to moving forward and living truly you.

This week, we step into Truth Tip #3 of our life purpose project and realize God set you apart to accomplish his specific plan for your life.

Truth Tip #3 

God Set You Apart To Fulfill His Plan For Your Life.

…before you were born I set you apart;

Jeremiah 1:5

I’m married. For the second time. Divorce was not part of my plan.  Frankly, it wasn’t God’s plan for my life either. In hindsight, perhaps neither was my first marriage.

Back then…1981…I didn’t think much about God having a plan for me. I was much too focused on myself for that. I definitely had a vision for my life, my marriage, and future family. Unfortunately, I don’t recall that I included God in the picture except for maybe church-going on Sundays. I claimed Christ as my Savior, attended bible studies, prayed and read scripture, but my faith wasn’t deep enough to know I could trust God in and with everything…even my life partner…even my dreams. I didn’t know how to be brave and listen to God’s voice, to view circumstances as signposts on the path to my first marriage.  I didn’t know God set me apart and had a specific plan for my life.  A plan to accomplish his purposes and bring me joy along the way.

I know now…and it has made all the difference.

Your Role In God’s Plan Is Significant

…God, who set me apart from birth and called me by his grace, was pleased to reveal his Son in me so that I might preach him among the Gentiles…

Galatians 1:15

When we set something or someone apart, we do so to keep it or her separate for the right purpose, place, and time. We separate good china from the everyday dishes for use on special occasions. When we bake, we set apart the dry ingredients from the wet until the right time. We separate our music on play lists based on our moods and preferences.  We set apart people for different jobs at our offices to bring optimum results. Setting apart has purpose.

In this scripture from Galatians, the apostle Paul reconfirmed the calling God had on his life…this ‘setting apart’ that occurred from birth. Paul testified that God lovingly and specifically selected, separated, and meant for him to complete a plan. Not Paul’s plan, God’s plan.

Paul’s plan was to persecute Jews…and he was good at it! But God knew all along the winding roads Paul would choose to take and he used them to strengthen and empower Paul’s testimony of Christ’s love to the Gentiles…eternally life~changing to those of us who are not Jewish!

Paul’s role in God’s plan is significant. So is yours.

Your role is significant

If you are anything like Paul ~ or me ~ in setting out to follow your own plans, you need to know that you have been set apart from birth to make a way for the completion of God’s great plan and glory. His plan includes your roles, personality, relationships, giftedness, location, experiences, faith, and even the ashes resulting from wrong choices.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purposes.

Romans 8:28

Through my first marriage, I was gifted an incredible son.  I gained a whole lot of wisdom, and my relationship with Christ grew deeply. God has used my past to create a desire in me to help other women draw close to him and know and accept his plan for their lives. In doing this, I live God’s plan for my life and bring glory to his name.

Step forward into God’s plan for your life.  Be truly you!

You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.

Proverbs 9:21

Purpose Prayer

God, forgive me for making my days all about me and my plans. Please open my eyes, ears, and heart to know and accept your will for my life. Thank you for somehow using my mistakes and misdirection for my good and greater impact for your kingdom, greatness, and glory. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Purpose Step

Write down the plan you have for your life. After praying and reading scripture, do you sense God has something different in mind for you? Are the differences small tweaks or huge leaps? Perhaps you’re right on target! In any case, praise God for his plan and ask that he reveal specifically how he wants to use you for his glory.

Listen to Your HeartSong Here

Set Apart/Worship Central

-Written by: Gail Armatys

You Really Are Gorgeous!

If you’re experiencing some mid-summer hum-drums, here is a re-post of a blog that seemed to strike a chord with women (and a few men) of all ages when originally published.   Although it won’t help with the heat, I pray it is an encouragement to you!

I'm gorgeous inside

By: Gail Armatys

A few days ago, and for the first time in my many sightings, I was struck by the thought that this realtor’s sign I drive by nearly every day might actually be saying something to me – even if I’m not in the market for a new home.

What I heard in my heart as I drove by yet again was this; I’m gorgeous inside. Me. Yes, me. I’m gorgeous inside. Yikes! What? Who said that? Did I really hear that? Do I dare say, admit, and (gasp) …believe it? What was God saying? Was He telling me to accept the beauty He planted and is growing within me?

I must admit, I had to look in the rear-view mirror to see if anyone was playing a prank on me. No prank. Instead, the Holy Spirit gently reminded me that after selecting the ruddy, young shepherd, David, to be anointed as king of Israel God told Samuel, ‘The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. ‘ (1Samuel 16:7)

Most frequently it seems we project this scriptural wisdom onto others as we learn to accept them as different from our expectations and ourselves. But, I wonder if we shouldn’t claim such a story for our own lives as well. Is it possible for us to look at who we are on the inside and rather than criticize, see that we are truly beautiful in the eyes of God? (Who, by the way, has the only opinion that matters.)

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (Psalms 139:13-14)

As a creation of Christ made exactly as He planned, purposed and desired, you must agree with David and in all humility say ‘Yes, I am beautiful!’ By the amazing grace of God, no matter what the world has taught you to believe, Truth says this: You Are Gorgeous Inside!

Prayer

Father, I praise your name and thank you for creating me. Thank you for the daily signs you provide of the beauty within me. Please forgive me when I am not as convinced as you are that I have been made in every way to fulfill your special purposes. Thank you that I can take negative thoughts of myself captive to you and know that your love and your word change my wrong thinking to godly thinking. I acknowledge that you know me inside and out and that you are intentional about every move you make and everything and person you create. Help me to see through your eyes as I seek to mirror your vision and joyfully accept the gift of ‘ME’ from you! I praise you for making me GORGEOUS inside! In Jesus’ holy and precious name, Amen.

Purpose Step

Have you taken time to notice the daily signs that reveal your Christ-like beauty? No? They are there. Did you forgive someone today? Do or say something kind? Smile? Share a Hug? Say something nice to or about yourself? Take time to pray?

Beginning today, identify and write down at least one signpost of your inward beauty each day this week. Then, praise God for His revelation!

My experience is that some days these signs are easier to recognize than others. That’s when I take a deep breath and refocus on Christ. Then, I hear it. Do you? Truth whispers to my heart, ‘Believe me. You really are gorgeous inside.’

Listen to Your HeartSong

Through My Father’s Eyes/Holly Starr

 

 

Breakthrough To Purpose

By: Gail Armatys

Are you in need of a breakthrough? Are you at a stand still? Stuck? Personally, professionally or spiritually? Are you looking for something…more? Perhaps God is calling you higher ~ deeper. But to get to that place, you need a breakthrough. More accurately…you need to break through.

If You Knew You Could Break Through – Would You?

I walked my dog, a sweet little Golden Doodle named Beaux, this morning. It’s part of our daily routine. Today, we walked a route through the neighborhood we sometimes, but not always, go. As we moved past a certain house with a fenced-in back yard we heard a dog. We are accustomed to hearing barking dogs as we walk …they envy Beaux’ out-from-behind-the-fence freedom. Usually, their barks are like the sound of cymbals mixed within a symphony of bird song that blesses us along our way. This time though, the barking didn’t ‘ching’ as though finger cymbals being played by a delighted child. This time they sounded more like the heavy yet abrupt ‘chong’, ‘chong’, ‘chong’ of heavy metal briefly grating against itself ~ not quite as cheery.

As I turned to look, there he stood. A huge, still barking, German Shepherd with his face pushed through a too large gap in the fence and his shoulders on stand-by ready to push through. We kept walking…both of us glancing over our shoulders every now and then. Maybe moving just a bit faster… and me saying to myself, “He could break through if he really wanted to…if he knew he could.”

Breakthrough

When I heard my own words, I knew I had to tell you, “You don’t have to wait any longer hoping for more…yet keeping the status quo. For to gain a higher, deeper life what you must know is that you can have it. But first, you must examine your path, take a look at negative life patterns, thoughts or habits that keep you captive. You must take a moment to realize that like the German Shepherd;

You could break through

If you really wanted to…

If you knew you could.

Breakthrough Based on Faith

A man brought his boy to Jesus to be healed. Jesus asked the boy’s father how long he had been like this. His father told him, “from childhood…But if you can do anything take pity on us and help us.”

“If you can?” Jesus said. “Everything is possible for him who believes.”

Mark 9:23

Once you identify what about you, your beliefs, your habits, circumstances or others is holding you back, you must surrender it to Christ and intentionally step out in faith to experience breakthrough. A humble belief in your self and your God-given abilities, yes! But much more ~ a belief in the power of Christ in, through, and around you…faith that He is able to do immeasurably more than you can ask or imagine. (Ephesians 3:20)

Breakthrough Requires Struggle

Some people are physically, mentally or spiritually held captive in extreme circumstances that would seem impossible to overcome. But even Dr. Viktor Frankl, in just such a situation as a prisoner and survivor of the Nazi concentration camps, kept himself alive and helped others do the same by focusing on one day again becoming involved in and completing a project they enjoyed or hugging someone they loved. Instead of focusing on darkness, death, hatred, and blame they deliberately chose to focus on their purpose.

We do not have to experience Auschwitz to be imprisoned mind, body, and Spirit. There are things that keep us from being all God has intended…they restrain us and we must be deliberate in seeking freedom.

Breakthrough. It is a decision to take action and be accountable. It is a willingness to surrender, count the cost, pay the price, and experience the struggle of overcoming and pushing through to a higher, deeper place focused on God and His purposes for our lives.

Can we let go of our well-worn paths and follow the one less traveled?

…Discovering destiny is far from passive.

Bill Thrall, Bruce McNicol, Ken McElrath

You can break through.

Purpose Steps

Ask yourself:

1. Is there a negative life pattern, thought, habit or belief that is holding you back ~ keeping you from a breakthrough? If so, what is it?
2. Are you too comfortable with ‘business as usual’, yet there is something on your heart God prepared for you to do that you aren’t doing?
3. Who or what is stopping you from making your God-designed contributions? Comfort? Fear? Others?
4. What leverage do you have that gives you an advantage to accomplish your purposes?
5. What is the next step to drawing closer to breakthrough and discovering that something calling your name?
6. Believe. If God is for you, who can be against you? (Romans 8:31)

Purpose Prayer

Father, thank you for your faithfulness that I may abandon my fears and believe in you. I pray for knowledge and strength to push past all that holds me back. Help me step forward in faith and experience breakthrough, knowing that your kingdom purposes for my life will be accomplished. In Jesus’ name, Amen

Listen to Your HeartSong ~ Click the Link Below

Called Me Higher/All Sons and Daughters

True Identity In Your Father’s Eyes

By: Gail Armatys

True identity is not what the people and circumstances of life say that it is. Your true identity is found in the eyes of your heavenly Father…the One to Whom you belong.

I Belong To You

In the song, Abba, the artist shares the following as a prelude to his music.

“I wrote this song from a prayer of Brennan Manning.

The prayer begins with the word ‘Abba’, which means daddy, papa, my dear father.

Abba, I belong to you.

And he tells you to take this prayer into a quiet place and with the rhythm of your breathing inhale, Abba, and exhale;

I belong to you.

As I began to pray this prayer the love of God began to wreck my heart and I realized Jesus began a revolution with one word. When he said the word ‘Father’, he changed everything…and now he’s invited us into this reality. Into this place of belonging… to call God our papa, our daddy, our Abba.”

Jonathan David Helser

Dear one, what ever your relationship with your earthly father, the reality you must surrender to is this; as a follower of Christ your true identity is found solely in the loving, wise, forgiving, patient, kind, just, and unshakeable eyes of God.

While the wounds of life may create scars that cause your true identity to be difficult to remember, accept, or live out ~ the truth remains the truth. You are and always have been desired and loved…by your earthly father, perhaps…I hope so. By your heavenly Father, there is no doubt.

True Identity Desired and Loved

Abba, I belong to you.

You were imagined and created because God wanted you to be and to live. He wants you to know him, spend time with him, and love him. He wants you to understand that in this sometimes tired and often dreary world there is a place where you belong because you are his.

Known By Heart

Every little girl desires her father’s attention. She seeks his undying love. She hopes beyond hope to see his joy as she captivates his heart. It’s the way God set things up. A girl finds her first taste of confidence, value, and hope as she seeks and finds her true identity in the mirror of her father’s eyes.

Unfortunately, not every earthly father lives up to his calling. Not every little girl receives her father’s love as she should. But, every little girl does have a heavenly Father that is enchanted by her. He cherishes her ~ even the very thought of her. He desires deeply that she spend time with him and know him well. So well, she knows him by heart.

Then he went with Sara into her little sitting room

and they bade each other good-bye.

Sara sat on his knee and held the lapels of his coat

in her small hands and looked long and hard at his face.

“Are you learning me by heart, little Sara?” he said, stroking her hair.

“No.” she answered. “I know you by heart. You are inside my heart.”

Frances Hodgson Burnett, A Little Princess

Perhaps little Sara didn’t know what simple and deep truths she spoke.

Do you?

If and when your earthly father is far from you or perhaps, not the father every little girl deserves, know this…your Abba, Father is so close to you that his Spirit resides in you. He is always with you…inside your heart…ready to be known. And as only the King of Kings can, he patiently waits for you to call on him that he may listen, guide, direct, and love you unconditionally.

So, as you look hard into his face…dwell on the reflection captured in his eyes.

For you are his child.

Father’s Day

This Father’s Day, crawl into your Abba, Father’s lap. Stare into his eyes and realize ~ this is the One to Whom you belong.

Know him by heart and receive your true identity.

Purpose Prayer

Abba, Father, thank you that you love me unconditionally. Thank you that your desire is to spend time with me, to know me, and to claim me as you precious child. I pray always and only to find my worth and true identity in your eyes. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Purpose Steps

Listen to your HeartSong below, Abba. Find a quiet place and breathe in, Abba, and exhale, I belong to you. Accept God’s invitation to belong to him your papa, daddy, and dear father. Discover your true identity in your Father’s eyes.

Click the link below to Listen to Your HeartSong 

Abba/Jonathan David Helser

Accomplishing Your Purpose May Require Much

By: Gail Armatys

The journey to accomplishing your purpose may require much of you…including giving thanks in difficult circumstances.

I am frustrated with a particular endeavor of mine. I have to chuckle, because it is no coincidence that my most recent newsletter was on the Christ-like character trait of perseverance. God has a sense of humor and is intentional about everything. So each time I write a newsletter, blog, or speech you can be sure He has a message in it for me as well. It’s not that I don’t read what I write or implement what God puts on my heart to share. It’s that I had forgotten a couple of steps along the way to accomplishing my purpose. This time, the message to me was found in First Thessalonians 5:16-18.

Be joyful always;

Pray continually;

Give thanks in all circumstances,

For this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

As I read, I heard clearly in my Spirit, “Why are you frustrated when you should be joyful? Come to me with a joyful heart. I know you’ve been praying…and I have been silent. Keep praying. I heard you give thanks for many things thus far today. But I did not hear thanks for the circumstances that frustrate you so. Come to me and give thanks for your situation. This experience will bring about much good…in my time.”

Next thing I know, I’m on my knees on the hard, stone patio, head bowed in prayer thanking God for all he has done and all He is doing. It was a prayer from deep in my heart. No fancy words, but a heart desperate to show gratitude for the work He was doing in me and through me to make known His name, His love, and His purposes for each of our lives.

journey to purpose requires much give thanks

After finishing my prayer, I felt refreshed. My attitude shifted. My focus was back where it should be – on God, not on my circumstances or myself. Sometimes, even when we do things for the right reasons, there are battles that must be fought as we dare to move forward. Even so, God is with us.

So today, my friend, I pray that you stop whatever you are doing, wherever you are, and shift your focus to Jesus and your weight to your knees. I pray you would bend low and speak from your heart every hurt and frustration that has blocked you from a joy-filled journey – that you choose joy in the Lord always. I pray that you find peace as you share with God and tell Him what you would like Him to do …according to His timeline. I pray that you would thank the Lord for all His wonders, and goodness; His faithfulness and mercy; for His love, and yes, for the situation and circumstances that you find yourself in – frustrating or not – because you know that through Christ it is all for your good and He is with you through all of it.

May your eyes and heart be focused on Christ, may your attitude be that of joy, may your prayers be as your very breath, and may you give thanks in each and every circumstance.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Purpose Steps

  1. Choose to speak in a joyful tone today sharing words of refreshment and encouragement. Notice how your day went before crawling into bed.
  2. Be intentional about praying throughout the day – let your breath be your reminder.
  3. Thank God for whatever circumstances you find yourself in this week…for they are meant to bring about much good for you.

Purpose Prayer

Father, I pray to walk in joy today, to live as though my every thought and action were a prayer lifted in your name, and to never forget to thank you for all you are teaching me, how you are leading me, and what you have planned for me. In Jesus’ holy name. Amen.

Listen to your HeartSong below.

Through All Of It/Colton Dixon

Live the song written on your heart.

3 Truths You Must Know: You Are Good Enough. You Are Not A Mistake. You Have Purpose.

By: Gail Armatys

No matter what you may think or what others may tell you, you are sacred in God’s eyes. You are good enough. You are not a mistake. You have purpose.

You are good enough. You are not a mistake.  You have purpose.

You Are Good Enough

For much of my young life I felt as though I didn’t belong…didn’t fit in. Mostly because my comparisons caused me to think I wasn’t smart enough…pretty enough…talented enough…you know…just not good enough. Through God’s amazing grace, I came to know and believe that no matter my weaknesses, failures, and disappointments I will always belong and be loved.

“You belong” and “You are good enough,” are not just messages I needed to hear and believe, they are words of truth for young and old alike – a message dear to God’s heart.

Fear not, for I have redeemed you;

I have summoned you by name;

You are mine.

Is. 43:1b

…you are precious and honored in my sight…

I love you.

Is. 43:4

We are led to believe by the world, it’s demons, and our ‘self’ that worth comes from applause, money, success, popularity, IQ, outward beauty and talent. If you’ve ever lacked in any of these areas, I hope you’ve come to know the truth…your value comes from Christ.

You and me? We’re good enough because Christ loved us enough. When someone willingly takes your place to spare your life…he loves you. You, my sister, are loved.

Greater love has no one than this,

that he lay down his life for his friends.

Jesus, John 15:13

Yet, accepting our worth in Christ can be challenging. It is much more than repeating a catchy mantra or sharing a compliment. It’s not self-help, self-motivation, or even pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps. Believing we are good enough is a full-on attack of faith. It saves us from:

  1. striving to be good enough through accomplishment;
  2. believing all is futile when we fail;
  3. searching for significance and acceptance in all the wrong places;
  4. succumbing to darkness that can lead to self-inflicted pain and loss of life.

You were created, claimed, and saved by God.

Believe it. Experience it as you sit in stillness wrapped in the arms of Christ.

You.  Are.  Good.  Enough. 

You Are Not A Mistake.

You were meant to be born exactly as you are. You are a unique, intentional, God-inspired design created with love. There is no one like you. It’s undeniable. Your fingerprints are yours alone. Your eyes belong to you. Your hands, feet, hair…all and only yours. You are different by design. God made you beautiful, unlike any other because He loves the idea of you! He desires the you that you are.

So why don’t you believe it? Maybe it feels safer to live undercover – secretly hiding the desire to thrive. You can’t get hurt if you aren’t known. And besides, the pain is deep.

I pray today you step out of the shadows, draw close to God and listen to the One who created you…Beautiful.

I have loved you with an everlasting love;

I have drawn you with loving kindness…

Jer. 31:3

You are intentional. God does not make mistakes. He creates beauty.

You.  Are.  Not.  A.  Mistake.

You Have Purpose

The words, “What difference do I make,” used to tumble through my mind. I couldn’t see my impact. The truth is, sometimes we don’t. And to be frank, our need to measure our contribution is more about pride than about the difference we make.

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,

Before you were born I set you apart;

I appointed you as a prophet.

Jer. 1:5

“I appointed you…” God spoke these words to Jeremiah, and He speaks them to you and me. He may not have set you apart as a prophet (or maybe he has), but you have been given talent to develop and gifts to share. They are not given in order that you might keep account of your impact. They are given that you may show Christ’s love to others as only you can.

You were born for a purpose. And, you were born to carry out your purpose in a specific time and place.

From one man He made every nation of men,

that they should inhabit the whole earth;

and He determined the times set for them

and the exact places where they should live.

Acts 17:26a

It is not an accident that you were born of your parents, in your town, amongst your friends and acquaintances, in your country, at a specific time on God’s timeline. He has a plan to fulfill and you have a role to play in that plan.

You.  Have.  Purpose.

So embrace your sacred worth. Be dazzled by God’s miraculous truths. Use your gifts and talents as only you can. Express the love of Christ through the opportunities given you in this time and place by the gracious hand of God.

Because the truth is…

You are good enough.  You are not a mistake.  You have purpose. 

Purpose Steps

In your time alone with God each morning this week,

  1. Thank Him that through Christ you are good enough.
  2. Thank Him for your uniqueness and beauty.
  3. Thank Him for the plans and purposes He has for your life.
  4. Ask for forgiveness for disbelief and that He strengthen your unbelief.
  5. Choose to overcome and embrace your sacred worth.

Purpose Prayer

Father, thank you for making me. Thank you for my beauty and unique design. Help me believe I belong and I am beloved so I may love others and fulfill the plan and purposes you have for my life. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Listen to Your HeartSong!

Beautiful Things/Gungor

Live the song written on your heart.

Still and Always

By Gail Armatys

I was a mom of a two year old…a little boy. My heart was full of hope for him and our family. We created a life that was picture perfect…until it wasn’t. On that day the picture crashed to the floor and the very glass meant to protect it shattered and cut through me like a knife.

Eight months later I was no longer a wife…but I was still, and would always be, ‘Mom’.

Stillandalways

As we celebrate our motherhood this weekend, I lift up you moms who are going through or have experienced divorce. Like me, I’m sure divorce was not a part of the vision you had for your future. Yet, it became a part of your story. So today I share six blossoms of hope meant to bring blessing, new perspective, and forward momentum to your life and your God-designed purpose as a mom.

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundThere is hope. You probably already know the best place to bring strength and healing to your life is on your knees with your bible open. But are you doing it? It took me a while to realize that what I had chosen to make my last resort was now truly my only resort. Finally, I cried out to God, opening my bible to the Psalms. There I discovered peace, love, and the strength to put one foot in front of the other.

If you are going through a divorce or even if you are on the other side of one, your greatest source of hope and encouragement is found in prayer and scripture. Have you chosen Christ as your first resort?

Come to me all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Matt. 11:28

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundDo not be the Lone Rangerette. Call out to others for support. My family and friends were my strength during this difficult time of change, acceptance, and adjustment. I received visits, prayer, and phone calls. Notes of encouragement were sent and my yard was even mowed. Who can you call and count on for comfort and support? It’s okay to ask for help. God has prepared someone to stand in the gap for you.

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves received from God.

2 Cor. 1:3-4

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundAs you go – so go your kids. In the initial stages of separation, my son began waking up in the night crying. To help soothe him, I would lie down with him and sing until he fell asleep. I shared this with my parents and their response was, “He will be better when you are better.” Those, no doubt, were words sent from heaven. It became clear that my son was reacting not only to the loss he was experiencing himself but to my emotions and me…even at two years old.

Like my son, your children need your assurance. They gain strength from you and your faith. Sometimes, I just had to suck it up and pretend a little…or a lot. I determined to schedule my weepiest moments for another time.

It sounds crazy because we are talking about emotions here, but I challenge you to schedule your deepest grief and anger for a time away from your children. (Self-control is key. See next blossom!) Of course, they may know you are sad, hurt, or angry – and it makes sense that you would be – you must not skip over the process of grief. But the truth is, they will be better when you are better. For the most part…that’s a decision you make. Will you make it?

Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord.

Ps. 31:24

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundFind your inner self-control. As a mother, you look out for your child’s best interests. You teach her about good choices in her actions and the words she speaks. You don’t stop teaching because you are in the throws of a divorce – she is always watching. In fact, she may now be more sensitive to your lessons. So when everything in you wants to criticize your ex because of what he has done or is doing – don’t. It hurts her heart. She loves him and is a part of him. Your words matter.

When temptation to disparage your ex arises, stop. God will provide a way of escape. Choose to submit to the Holy Spirit’s prompting and take the way out offered. It’s in your child’s best interest. Is there something you need to stop saying today?

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can endure it. 1 Cor. 10:13

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundSeek the blessing and give thanks. If there was a blessing in divorce, I found it every other weekend when my son visited my ex. Don’t get me wrong, I hated to see my child go but those days became a precious time for healing. I had many a conversation with God on my back patio. I treasured that oneness with Him. I looked forward to and received His guidance and peace.

Enforced visitation gave me time with God. I changed my attitude, perspective, and my life. What blessings can you name in your storm? Be thankful for them.

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

1 Thess. 5:18

beautiful pink rose isolated on  white backgroundRemember God has a good plan for your life. Perhaps you and I got off God’s intended path for a while, but He makes our paths straight. No matter how far we wander He calls out to us. Divorce may now be a part of your story – but for you who love Him and are called to His purposes, He promises to use it for your good…and that’s just what He’s done for me.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Rom. 8:28

Today, I am remarried to my best friend, and a mom of three incredible grown kids. I praise God for a brave, kind, creative, and wise son (my little 2 year old all grown up), a beautiful, joy-filled, fun-loving, and smart daughter, (actually step–daughter but I hate using that word. She’s my daughter because she has my heart.), and my youngest, a laid-back, hard-working, funny, honor-student Aggie. Most importantly, by God’s grace they all walk in the Truth. He worked for the good in my life and the lives of my children – even through divorce.

If you wonder how you are going to make it, how you’ll be the kind of mom your kids need as they grow into themselves, and how you are going to provide and care for them…do not fear. Pray. Run to Him first and often. I finally did, and what I learned was…

Jesus loves your children even more than you do.

When you call, He will answer.

You are not alone.

And…you are still, and will always be, ‘Mom’.

Her children arise and call her blessed… Prov. 31:28 

Purpose Steps

  1. Answer the questions posed above and meditate on the scripture.
  2. Praise God for the blessings in the storm.
  3. Give your child a hug. Give yourself a hug.
  4. Embrace the joys of Mother’s Day!

Purpose Prayer

Lord, thank you for your patience with me during this time of struggle. I praise you that you love my children even more than I do – and that you love me more than I can know. Thank you for the role you’ve given me as ‘Mom’ and the good plans you have for my life. I pray to walk with you on this path and in your peace. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Listen to Your Heartsong Here!

I Am Not Alone/Kari Jobe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfveawSAHJA

A Bonus Mother’s Day HeartSong for You!

A Mother’s Prayer/Rachel Aldous

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=re5EIUIXbhc