By: Gail Armatys, HeartSong Life Coach
Did you see the chatter in the ‘news’ this week about Cindy Crawford, the super model? An untouched photo of Ms. Crawford in all of her scantily clad-ness was released to the world. The image revealed a bit of a tummy and stretch marks. Ah, ha! Hallelujah! She is imperfect! Females around the world rejoice! This super model is flawed!
A few days later more national news, Miss Alabama from years gone by, Katherine Webb, posted a photo of herself on Instagram in a bikini. Women were in an uproar making caustic comments about how thin she looked – “someone get her a sandwich,” was one of the kinder commentaries.
These news flashes stuck with me as I thought…
- Really, this is news?
- We must have all our needs met and too much time on our hands.
- Maybe, just maybe, we women are confused about the truth of beauty.
I don’t know what Cindy Crawford or Katherine Webb think about all of this, but I do know it is important for a woman to feel and believe she is beautiful. Why? Because what you believe to be true about yourself impacts the way you love, the choices you make, and the life you dare to lead.
So, in case any of us are tempted to make beauty comparisons to super models, Miss Americas, co-workers or neighbors, let’s take a moment to play a quick game of ‘Truth or Dare’.
In The Eye of the Creator
I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with loving kindness.
This scriptural truth was declared by God to the people of Israel as he expressed his love for them. But as God does not change, this Word of the Lord has applied from the beginning and still exists. Let’s see how the first woman was ‘drawn with loving kindness.’
We don’t always think of Eve as a beauty. More often, we remember her as the mother of all the living and the one deceived by the serpent. But today, we look at Eve from the viewpoint of her Creator.
Eve was, among all creation, made last. She was God’s creative crowning glory. The star on top of the tree. The icing on the cake. In other words, God saved the best for last. (Sorry guys – it’s true.)
God created Eve in a special manner, differently than all other creation. She was made perfectly in his sight, just as he designed. Not from the dust of the ground like everything/one else. Instead, she was formed from the rib of Adam. Eve was created specifically and especially for a purpose – to complete Adam. She was God’s vision of beauty…and Adam’s as well.
Still, I wonder if in the eyes and times of our world she would measure up on our personal and national beauty-o-meter. I doubt it, but no matter. God knows and is the one who gets to judge this pageant.
Each day this week before going through your usual beauty regimen, as slight or as complex as it may be, look in your mirror at the person God created and dare to find one or more beautiful characteristic(s) you like about yourself. Thank God for making you just the way you are – the way he planned. (Really, it’s okay to do this!)
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
In an interview Cindy Crawford did years ago she tells a story about the mole above her lip (you know the one) and how as a young girl she wanted to have it removed. Not sure – but my guess is someone made a comment or made fun of the mole which led to her desire to get rid of it in order to feel more loved and accepted…more beautiful.
Unfortunately, we are often our own worst enemies as we believe lies and lose focus on God and his designed purpose for us. We do what Johnny Lee sings about. We go “looking for love in all the wrong places.” For reasons I do not know, Cindy kept the mole and now admits that it is among her greatest assets, a hallmark of sorts.
The moral of the story? God made you the way you are for a reason – a purpose. Imperfectly beautiful. In fact, the God-given characteristic you may dislike most about yourself, may be what he can use best for good and his glory.
Choose a God – given physical characteristic you dislike about yourself and surrender your hurt, anger, frustration, etc. about it to God. Ask God to show you how this characteristic can be used for good in your life, the lives of others, and his glory.
Beauty is Love
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who fears the Lord.
Sometimes we have moles, unruly hair, stretch marks, big ears, extra weight or we are judged too thin. The list goes on… but rather than invest in the negative comments of others or ourselves or focusing on the external, we must listen to and acknowledge the truth. For God, beauty is the love found in our hearts.
Whether you choose to believe it or not, God made you beautifully. Flawed against the image of what we in the world may call perfection, yes. But not less beautiful, less necessary, or less loved because of it.
Name one God-given trait of yours that you can use to help or encourage others.
Take the dares listed above. Then, dare to believe you are beautiful, necessary, and loved.
Father, help me to see myself with your eyes. Help me to look into my heart and let loose the passion you’ve placed there. Please replace my hurts with your grace and motivation to step forward letting the beauty you’ve given me shine for your glory. In Jesus’ holy name, Amen.
Listen to Your HeartSong Here!
Live the song written on your heart.