Written by: Amy Dalke
So, you know how I typically write to you on Monday’s, right?
Well, I’m still writing today, but today is a bit different. (And no, not different like I’m introducing a new blog series on How to Improve Your Domestic Skills.) (We all know what false teaching that would be, coming from me.)
So I hope you’ll read all the way to the bottom today, because that’s where you’ll find the different part.
And without explicitly saying that I’m begging for your input, I really am. Begging for your input.
I’ve been thinking and reading and studying a lot lately…about the believer’s identity in Christ. And I’m convinced that, if we could just dip into the truth of our identity in Christ…even just knee deep…we would be completely different people.
People who are truly free. People who are content. People who have joy…because we know we have enough. People who know we are enough…just like we are right now.
A lot of this recent study of mine has been on Ephesians chapter one, and it’s blown the doors off my mind. Like, it’s pretty much ripped back a layer of lies that have kept me circling in my own mental state of lack. I used to skim through verses 1-14, thinking, “Yes. I know, I know. I’ve been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ. I get that. I have an inheritance in Christ. Yes, I get that, too.”
But you know what?
I must not have really gotten it the first twelve or twenty times.
How do I know that?
Because I get all tangled up in the identity the world values. Some days, I don’t even make it to my closet in the morning before I have at least one thought about how I don’t measure up to certain “standards”.
And I’m that girl who tends to hang her identity on everything the world has to offer: appearance, performance (parenthood, home-making, career), financial/material possessions, you name it. It’s as though I measure – subconsciously or consciously – my personal value against the world’s bar in one (or all) of those areas.
I dare say that at one point or another, I have derived my self worth from something outside of myself…outside of God’s intent for me as His child.
I’m wondering if you do, too.
The world around us persistently reminds us that we can be okay with ourselves…
…once we look good enough.
…or once we have our retirement set.
…or once we tuck away enough in the kids’ college funds.
We can be content once we achieve that much anticipated promotion.
…once we can finally afford that house.
…once we get our kids through the teenage years unscathed.
…or once we lose these last fifteen pounds.
But, the truth is, as children of God, our worth is not measured by the world’s so-called measuring sticks!
This truth has hit me on so many levels, that all I can think about these days is wanting to write about it, and teach it, and pass it along to every one I know…so that together, we can learn to live free from those yardsticks by which we wrongly measure our self-worth.
Here’s where the “begging for your input” comes in:
Would you say you struggle with the “identity/self-worth” issue?
Is it a real battle for you…to the extent that you would read a book that helps you better understand who you really are in Christ? Would you want to see how your identity in Him frees you from the value measurements of the world? (I’m not asking you to buy a book…God knows I haven’t written one…I’m just curious to know if you would find a book on this topic helpful.) (That’s all.)
If you do struggle with understanding and/or living out of your identity in Christ, versus weighing yourself according to the world’s measurements, can you tie your struggle to one particular area? (Or are you a messy case like me…and could check the boxes on all of them?)
Here’s a few examples of where one might look for self-worth:
- performance (academic, career, athletic, or parenting)
- possessions (financial or material resources)
- approval and/or opinions of others
If your area isn’t reflected here, that’s totally okay. Please, talk to me anyway.
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